Whether your’re gay, straight or bisexual, it is natural to seek
healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Whether you’re gay, straight or bisexual, it is natural to seek healthy and fulfilling relationships. A healthy same sex relationship is one that requires work, perseverance and optimism! As a mature gay man, there is added pressure of living in a society and community where youth is celebrated . But equally, being older and having more life experience will be an advantage that many younger men will envy you for .
Let’s immediately debunk three common myths about gay dating:
MYTH 1: GAY RELATIONSHIPS DON’T LAST
Many people think that gay relationships are short-lived. However, there are also many gay couples in healthy, long-term relationships (and they are usually not as visible as single guys or younger couples). If you are working on how to improve your relationship, talk to these couples for better insights. There are some workshops by Oogachaga that can help you to understand gay relationships better and learn skills on enhancing these relationships.
MYTH 2: GAY RELATIONSHIPS ARE DOOMED TO FAIL BECAUSE GAYS ARE PROMISCUOUS
Many couples believed that monogamy (or not) is an issue which should be discussed openly with your partner. Every couple is different, but many healthy relationships include a mutual understanding that sexual liaisons with other people may happen. Many couples ironed these out by setting their own rules and boundaries within the relationship. These discussions also allow couples to adopt safe sex practices within their relationships. The best recipe for a happy union will always include open communication in order to build trust with your partner.
MYTH 3: YOUNG MEN ARE JUST INTERESTED IN YOU FOR YOUR MONEY
Many mature men who are attracted to guys of younger age may be holding back because of the common misperception that younger men are only interested in their money or that they are not stable enough for a relationship. On the contrary, many mature gay men have shared that they have meaningful relationships with younger men. While some do not mind contributing more financially to the relationship, others make sure it is balanced. Like all relationships, set your own rules and limitations with your younger partner. If you need some support in managing the relationship, talk to a counselor, look out for a supportive network that meets your needs or discuss these concerns with couples who have worked these out.
As simple as this may sound, you will find dating a lot easier if you know who you are and what you want. Why do you want a relationship? Do you fully understand your own sexuality, values and boundaries? Are you conservative in life (and love) or more adventurous? And do you know your type, based not just on looks, but also on personality?
Coming Soon: Ideas on how to meet guys…..